"No man was ever wise by chance." Lucius Seneca
"Honest criticism is hard to take, particularly from a relative, a friend, an acquaintance, or a stranger." Franklin P. Jones
I wrote yesterday on "Mindfulness: the missing facet 'describe', and meeting at relational depth with self & others - theory" . Today I'd like to take this into a practical example.
God guard me from those thoughts men think in the mind alone; he that sings a lasting song thinks in a marrow bone. William Butler Yeats
In yesterday's post I discussed the first three of Andrew Christensen's "five principles" of a "Unified protocol for couple therapy". Today I'd like to talk about his fourth and fifth principles - foster productive communication (develop more adaptive communication skills) and emphasize strengths and encourage positive behavior. The five principles are illustrated in the following diagram (downloadable both as a PDF file and as a Powerpoint slide):
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About every three months I meet up with one of my oldest and dearest friends and we spend twenty four hours or so together checking in on how our lives are going and what our plans are - this "work" links to the post "Building willpower: the eight pillars". Our friendship goes back nearly 30 years and we've been doing these check-in's for a decade or so. We know each other pretty well! I'm just back from one of these times and it leads me to think a bit about friendship.
(this post is downloadable as both a Word doc and as a PDF file).
I wrote yesterday about conflict and the costs of over- and under-assertiveness. Today's post adds further thoughts about making conflict constructive.
(this post is downloadable as both a Word doc and as a PDF file).
Occasional disagreement and conflict are pretty much inevitable. I scanned Medline for relevant research articles to see if there are any helpful insights that have emerged recently. As usual when one trawls for information, hundreds of publications emerge. Here are a few of the areas I found particularly interesting.
