"We camouflage our true being before others to protect ourselves against criticism or rejection.  This protection comes at a steep price.  When we are not truly known by the other people in our lives, we are misunderstood.  When we are misunderstood, especially by family and friends, we join the "lonely crowd."  Worse, when we succeed in hiding our being from others, we tend to lose touch with our real selves.  This loss of self contributes to illness in its myriad forms. "


Posts tagged with 'touch'

Why it might make sense to sleep with a weighted blanket

13th October 2022

Is there any value in using a weighted rather than a standard blanket? More to follow ...

How to live well: 8th meeting: nourishing relationships, conflict & wisdom, and attachment

24th October 2018

"The way is not in the sky. The way is in the heart." Dhammapada We introduced the first of three sessions on relationships in last week's meeting - "How to live well: 7th meeting - relationships, roles, Dunbar, needs & dyads". We looked particularly at Funeral speeches/current progress, Dunbar's 5-15-50-150 …

Self-compassion: soothing touch helps us settle and relax

20th May 2017

Touch can be profoundly soothing and settling. In an intriguing study - "Nonverbal channel use in communication of emotion: how may depend on why" - researchers found that when participants generated displays of eleven different emotions, touch was the most preferred nonverbal way of showing love and sympathy. Welcomed touch …

Recent research: six studies on couples - attraction, touch, viewpoint, comparison, empathy & sex

4th December 2008

Here are half a dozen recent studies on men & women. Elliot & Niesta found that red, relative to other colours, lead men to view women as "more attractive and sexually desirable". Holt-Lundstad & colleagues randomized couples to a "support enhancement intervention" involving shared gentle massage for 30 minutes three …