"The genius of Tulku Urgyen was that he could point out the nature of mind with precision and matter-of-factness of teaching a person how to thread a needle and could get an ordinary meditator like me to recognize that consciousness is intrinsically free of self ... I came to Tulku Urgyen yearning for the experience of self-transcendence, and in a few minutes he showed me I had no self to transcend ... Tulku Urgyen simply handed me the ability to cut through the illusion of the self directly, even in ordinary states of consciousness.  This instruction was, without question, the most important thing I have ever been explicitly taught by another human being.  It has given me a way to escape the usual tides of psychological suffering - fear, anger, shame - in an instant. "

Sam Harris

Posts tagged with 'forgiveness'

Proposal for a BABCP special interest group on compassion

30th June 2011

The British Association for Behavioural & Cognitive Psychotherapies (BABCP) encourages the formation of Special Interest Groups (SIG's) in areas that members want to particularly focus on. There has been discussion recently about a possible SIG on Compassion. If you're a member of the BABCP and you would like to be …

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Conflict: not too much, not too little - the importance of assertiveness in close relationships

4th June 2011

(this post is downloadable as both a Word doc and as a PDF file). I've recently written a couple of posts on conflict - "Conflict: not too much, not too little - some research suggestions" and "Conflict: not too much, not too little - how to make it constructive". Today …

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Conflict: not too much, not too little - and how to make it constructive

21st May 2011

(this post is downloadable as both a Word doc and as a PDF file). I wrote yesterday about conflict and the costs of over- and under-assertiveness. Today's post adds further thoughts about making conflict constructive. Relationships are the source of much of humanity's greatest joys and greatest sorrows. They have …

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Conflict: not too much, not too little - some research suggestions

20th May 2011

(this post is downloadable as both a Word doc and as a PDF file). Occasional disagreement and conflict are pretty much inevitable. I scanned Medline for relevant research articles to see if there are any helpful insights that have emerged recently. As usual when one trawls for information, hundreds of …

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