"We camouflage our true being before others to protect ourselves against criticism or rejection.  This protection comes at a steep price.  When we are not truly known by the other people in our lives, we are misunderstood.  When we are misunderstood, especially by family and friends, we join the "lonely crowd."  Worse, when we succeed in hiding our being from others, we tend to lose touch with our real selves.  This loss of self contributes to illness in its myriad forms. "


Posts tagged with 'positive psychology'

Recent research: articles from autumn journals

10th December 2014

I read a lot of research. When I find an article of particular interest I download it to my bibliographic database - Endnote - which currently contains over 21,400 abstracts. I also regularly tweet about emerging research, so following me on Twitter, Facebook or Google+ (click on the relevant icon …

Recent research: articles from late summer journals

3rd September 2014

I read a lot of research. When I find an article of particular interest I download it to my bibliographic database - Endnote - which currently contains over 21,200 abstracts. I also regularly tweet about emerging research, so following me on Twitter, Facebook or Google+ (click on the relevant icon …

Recent research: articles from summer journals

10th August 2014

I read a lot of research. When I find an article of particular interest I download it to my bibliographic database - EndNote - which currently contains over 21,000 abstracts. I also regularly tweet about emerging research, so following me on Twitter, Facebook or Google+ (click on the relevant icon …

European positive psychology conference: love, national happiness comparison tables, & life satisfaction assessment (2nd post)

3rd July 2014

I wrote yesterday about the two pre-European Conference on Positive Psychology (ECPP) workshops I went to on "Positive supervision" and on "Positive relationships". Then in mid-afternoon on Tuesday, the conference proper began. It was heralded by Taiko drummers and a cluster of brief welcoming speeches. Apparently there are 920 people …

A day spent "idle & blessed": revisiting an experiment - savouring & "positive state mindfulness"

20th April 2013

Last September I went back to Cambridge for a reunion ... the first time I'd ever been back to school or university for such a thing. It was an experiment in "emotional archaeology" and I wrote a series of blog posts about it. At one stage I experimented with a …

Keeping up with relevant research

18th March 2013

I average a little over three hours weekly scanning medical and psychological journals on the internet. Typically I zoom through the article titles looking for anything relevant to stress, health & wellbeing. If something seems interesting, I read the article's abstract. I may well then download it to my bibliographic …

A day spent "idle and blessed": report of an experiment

30th November 2012

In the words of Mary Oliver's beautiful poem "The summer day": Who made the world? Who made the swan, and the black bear? Who made the grasshopper? This grasshopper, I mean - the one who has flung herself out of the grass, the one who is eating sugar out of …

Update on website traffic: my own favourite top 15 (11-15) - exercise, lifestyle, writing, goal setting & positive psychology

7th August 2012

Earlier this year I used Google Analytics to identify the most read pages on this website and I wrote the post "Update on website traffic: the ten most popular blog posts". I then wondered - "What are my own personal favourites?" and I quickly realised that the posts that I've …

Conflict: not too much, not too little - the importance of assertiveness in close relationships

4th June 2011

(this post is downloadable as both a Word doc and as a PDF file). I've recently written a couple of posts on conflict - "Conflict: not too much, not too little - some research suggestions" and "Conflict: not too much, not too little - how to make it constructive". Today …

Psychotherapy & positive psychology: outline of a workshop

18th March 2011

I've already written a couple of blog posts on the short day workshop I'm running early next month - "Psychotherapy & positive psychology: why psychotherapists should pay attention" and "Psychotherapy & positive psychology: the assessment dashboard". On the day itself I plan to start with a little background on what …