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Power objects, power postures, power clothes, power prayers: all ways to facilitate change (2nd post)

"Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work"   Thomas Edison

In yesterday's post - "Power objects, power postures, power clothes, power prayers: all ways to facilitate change (1st post)" - I introduced recent research highlighting how we can use physical objects and the way we position our bodies to significantly improve our chances of following through on new ways of thinking, feeling & behaving.  In today's post I extend this discussion of ways to help ourselves change to what we wear and what we say to ourselves.

Power objects, power postures, power clothes, power prayers: all ways to facilitate change (1st post)

"I will love you like a wind,
like a man stitching a skin
together like a winter coat.

Like a man sitting in meditation
and repairing a cracking spirit.
Like a man in love with a leaf,
a cloud, a flame, a temple.

Like a man on fire
running in the wilderness
shouting for sheer joy."

From the poem "A blessing (the way)" in the book "A shaman's songbook" by Norman Moser 

Conflict: not too much, not too little - some research suggestions

(this post is downloadable as both a Word doc and as a PDF file).  

Occasional disagreement and conflict are pretty much inevitable.  I scanned Medline for relevant research articles to see if there are any helpful insights that have emerged recently.  As usual when one trawls for information, hundreds of publications emerge.  Here are a few of the areas I found particularly interesting.

Behavioural systems (attachment, care giving, exploration, sex & power): hyperactivated, hypoactivated or just about right?

Overall - along with 50 to 60% of the population - I qualify as "securely attached".  I was fortunate in being brought up by loving parents who left me with an internalised "secure attachment script" that runs something like "If I feel a bit insecure or threatened, there will be others who I can turn to for comfort & support.  I'll then feel better & successfully be able to tackle the challenges I face."  Our attachment style spreads out to affect many aspects of our lives - especially how we feel about ourselves and how we relate to others.  I've written quite a lot in the past about attachment.  See, for example, "Attachment, compassion & relationships" and "Assessing attachment in adults".  In the latter post, I said " ...

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