One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said "My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith." The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf wins?" The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed." - Anonymous
Therapists, mentors & coaches: an introduction
1.) what makes some psychotherapists, counsellors, mentors & coaches more helpful than others?
2.) links are provided to five ways of increasing therapist helpfulness - feedback, therapeutic alliance, expectancy & hope, deliberate practice & therapist resilience.
"The secret of patient care is caring for the patient." William Osler
"No man is an island entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main." John Donne
"Friendship is the single most important factor influencing our health, well-being, and happiness." Robin Dunbar, Oxford emeritus professor of evolutionary psychology
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Now what can we best do about all these findings? I said I would suggest responses informed by Self-determination theory, Self-identity theory, and Dunbar's Layered model of social network structure. So 2.) Here's a link to the next section of this chapter - Social networks: the value of a self-determination theory lens . 3.) Here's a link to the two-part third section - Social networks: social identity & the importance of both formal & informal group memberships (background) and Social networks: social identity & the importance of both formal & informal group memberships (what can we do?). And 4.) Here's a link to the three-part fourth & last section - Social networks: Dunbar's 5-15-50-150 model (support clique/closest relationships), Social networks: Dunbar's 5-15-50-150 model (sympathy group & full active network) and Social networks: Dunbar's 5-15-50-150 model (assessing how we're doing). All three of these sections give you overlapping & helpful ways of understanding personal relationship networks, assessing how one is doing, and clarifying ways of looking after & growing the health of one's relationships.
And here's a link that will take you back to the full list of book chapters.